Sandra Chaloux

| 04/25/2020

Our Choice In Any Moment

Our Choice In Any Moment

Yesterday after talking to a friend, I was wiped out for 4 or 5 hours. She talked about how depressed she felt spending so much time alone and how much she missed seeing her grandson. I held the space. I know we are all processing so many emotions and a collective sense of loss from the COVID-19 pandemic. 

After our talk, on my walk, I was pondering/meditating about depression. The following thought popped into my head - depression is an unconscious choice.

Before I share some thoughts about a way out of depression....I first want to start by saying that it is important to fully feel our emotions and not suppress them. We need to feel them, accept that they may make us feel a bit crazy, and know that the pain and discomfort will pass. I want to tell you about the Peace Process that Christian MIckelsen teaches in his book Abundance Unleashed

The Peace Process can help you make peace with your biggest fears. With the Peace process, you allow the feelings to be felt fully. You focus on where you are feeling them in the body. "We go into the eye of the hurricane where those feelings are most intense. We surrender and send love and acceptance to the feeling and let the feeling we've zeroed in on completely take over and run its course. Christian says that 99% of all the issues that he uses the Peace Process for resolve in a matter of minutes or hours. He says the best time to do the Peace Process is right when you are feeling something come up.

From a spiritual perspective, the presence of fear is a sure sign that you are relying on your own strength -you are disconnected from your true Divine Source. You can start a conversation with God anytime and pose your questions -in a journal if you like and pay attention to the answers you get. I don't always get the answer right away, often it comes as a new ah ha or realization while I am doing something else or walking.

Depression can happen when you focus too much on yourself and not on how you can help others. 

Tony Robbins recently told us, that in his huge audiences he asks people what they focus on:

  • What they have or what they don't have (He said 80-90% say they focus more on what is missing)
  • Past, present, or future
  • What we can control or what we can't control

If you are focusing on what you don't have, the past, and/or what you can't control -you are going to be very unhappy.

You can't let these emotions control you. How many people do you know that take antidepressants and they are still depressed? Antidepressants numb you, but don't change what you focus on.

Your experience of life comes down to what you choose to focus on. Most of us have worst-case scenario fears that never end up happening and we end up wasting so much energy. I'm sure you can remember a time when you worried yourself sick about something that never came to pass and how much you regretted the negative energy you generated for nothing.

Step. 1. Take control of your focus. Focus=Feeling and the perceived reality to the Individual. Focus first on what you have to give to others  (some gift, insight and passion to share). It's O.K. to focus upon what you're missing for a short time to take inventory and make a plan and then move on. You are in control of how you interpret & respond to every situation.

Step. 2. What does it mean? Is it God punishing you? Is this God challenging you? Is this a gift from God? Is this the end or the beginning? Is this person loving on me or dissing me? The meaning we assign to things will affect our response and experience. Negative meanings will conjure up negative emotions and lead you to unproductive actions. Time to come up with more empowering meanings.

Step. 3. What do you decide to do? I choose to be a leader not a follower. I choose to spend this time learning how to master a new skill, connect and support others.

Tony says we have grown up in emotional homes that we go to in times like these -it may be Worry, Fear, Anxiety, Anger, Guilt, Humor, Love. This is where you are most comfortable. Where is your emotional home? It may be time to improve it, upgrade it, expand it -go deeper. Do you have a habit of getting to frustration quickly or not trusting yourself real easily? 

I invite you to start over, choose your focus, and ask better questions. What can I do? You have to feed your mind with empowering and inspiring insights. You have to stand guard of the door of your mind. You have to fill your mind with programming that will help you to have better meanings and to make the most of your gifts.

An Empowering Meaning for COVID-19 Pandemic

This is a brand new beginning. This is a chance to create what I want. This is the time to spend time with those I love and to expand and grow and get ready for the next chapter of my life. This type of thinking will produce emotions of excitement, passion, hope, love, joy and certainty. Your decisions and actions will be more productive from this type of meaning.

Become more aware of your focus and patterns and just tell yourself erase, erase, erase if you catch yourself focusing on what is missing, the past, or what you can't control. After a while your brain will automatically start to look for what is useful, helpful, what is beautiful here, what can I learn from this?


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